It's time to remove one of the main reasons people give for not taking a leap of faith toward living the life they dream of. I hear it used by men and women of all ages, and grew up hearing my father say it for years. I'm sorry to say it so bluntly, and I apologise if I offend, because I have been there, and I used this as my reason for not doing anything about my unhappy career for too many years...
"I don't know what I want to do with the rest of my life... when I can decide, I'll start to do something about it. "
I'm sorry but it is.
However, it's not you telling the bullsh*t - it's the people who put it into your head that you actually had to make a choice, and that once you have made a choice, you will never be able to go back and change your mind again. "The one choice you make now is one you are committed to FOREVER - so make sure it is right, because if it isn't - you are going to regret it every day until you die..."
During the times of World War 1 & 2, human beings industrialised the world, taking huge steps towards mass production, creating jobs, food, and all kinds of products that would assist in revolutionising the way we live.
This was when we invented curriculum which dictated exactly what you had to learn at school.
This was when factory lines told you to shut off your creativity & just do what you are told.
This was when you were promised the 'American/Australian dream' but only if you studied what they told you to study, got a job where you blindly followed the rules, and then spent your money on the things you were instructed to spend them on, so you could be happy the way you were instructed to be happy.
Umm yeah, well you know what - that's not working for us anymore.
No longer do we live in the world that our grandparents or parents lived in. We live in a world where it's actually pretty okay to change your mind, to experiment, to try a few different things, to not have the same job for life, and to make a career change at ANY AGE.
I struggled for years because I kept telling myself that I couldn't choose what I wanted to do with the rest of my life, because I didn't want to get it wrong. I didn't want to put my hopes and dreams on the line, and then fail. I didn't want to find out that perhaps I'm not very good at my dream career. I didn't want to pick one thing when I wanted to pursue so many exciting dreams. So I focused on struggling to pick, and didn't commit to really do anything.
Pretty mad hey?
You don't ever have to choose what you want to do with the rest of your life - you just have to start doing something!
Start experimenting, start reading lots of different things, start going to lots of different meetups, start trying new things, explore the things that get you excited, begin talking about the things that fire you up - just for the sake of it - because choosing what career you want is not a one time choice - it is a way of living, and the way you want to live, and the interests you want to pursue now, will change as you learn and grow.
When I allowed myself the freedom of making a choice that might turn out to be wrong, I made it easily. When I gave myself permission to make a mistake, to get it wrong, to just have fun, and to try something new - I found my purpose - and having no pressure on the outcome of what I'm working on, enables me to love every minute of it.
The thing is - you don't have to choose a traditional career anymore. We aren't limited to structured jobs as a means of income - you can actually design your 'working life' around your 'living life'. If you have found yourself thinking "I couldn't possibly do that" - go out and do it. If you find yourself worrying "but my wife, father, brother, friends will think I'm stupid" - give yourself a chance. If you feel deep in your heart "this is want I want, but I don't think I'm good enough" - go and prove yourself wrong.
Most often we do know what it is that gets us fired up, we have simply stopped fueling the flame.
There is a lot I want to do in my life, and I'm building a business that will enable me to do all of the things I love to do - this is the beauty of the highly advanced world we live in. I'm not choosing one thing - I'm choosing them all. And you can too.
You don't have to make one choice for life, you just have to start on something - get your energy flowing, begin doing anything that interests you, you'll soon eliminate the things that don't keep you fueled. Don't pressure yourself to be anything other than your authentic self, focus on what you really want for you - everything else will work itself out as you begin to experiment with your ideas - you can't possibly decide what you want to do, until you begin doing it.
Next post we'll discuss more the phenomenon of a 'multi-passioned' person, and how you can build all of your passions into your career. So if you want to do many many different things, you're not indecisive - you're just like me, and there is a way to be yourself in your career.
Do you know someone who has been struggling to work out 'what they want to do with the rest of your life'? Or have you been asking yourself this question? Leave a comment, and let us know what is preventing you from moving forward.