Hmmm, yep, it's true.
The restrictions and assumptions that we complain about so often. The one we yell about and tell people not to put us in...
It's of our own design. We did it to ourselves.
The box I have put myself in might be filled with disco lights, feather boas and sparkles - but am I really safe?
The box you are living in... do you feel safe?
In rebellion to the assumptions other people make of me - it's the assumptions we make of each other AND the assumptions we make about ourselves - in REBELLION...
I have pulled the lid down on myself - "THIS IS WHO I AM" - and now I feel safe.
BUT... (there's almost always a but...)
BUT I'm not reaching the heights I could be reaching. I'm not hitting the targets I set for myself...
and yet I wonder, what is holding me back? What is this resistance?
And like smoke rising from the genie lantern in the corner of my sparkly pretty self-made box-home I live in, comes The Voice of Truth -
"How can I fly when I'm living in a goddamned box?"
How can I be free when I'm holding myself back? How can I be successful when I haven't given myself the opportunity to be? Why the hell does reaching giddy heights scare me so? Why does making 'who I am' into a fully fledged business keep me frozen in fear?
Because I'd have so far to fall. I love 'who I am' - but being up there without a safety net makes me vulnerable...
It's as simple as that. Vulnerability.
I don't want to put myself out there and find out that no one wants what I'm selling. Because I'm not selling product anymore. I'm not selling the world something they've bought before.
I'm selling me.
And I've already made the assumption that nobody will want what I'm selling.
How ridiculously limiting is that?!
But you know we do it in so many areas of our lives!
"I'm not going to ask him out, he clearly doesn't like me", "I'm not going to ask for a day off, I know they'll say no", "I'm not going to ask for help, they'll think I'm weak", "I'm not going to wear my new dress, they'll think I look ridiculous", "I'm not going to call or contact her, she'll be too busy to talk"...
"I'm not going to put my sales page up, no one will want what I have to sell..."
The assumptions we make about the world and about what other people think are keeping us in a box and not giving us the freedom to BE WHO WE REALLY ARE IN OUR TRUTH AND OUR BRAVERY.
And it is selfish to hide YOU away and not share YOU with the world. It is selfish to not do the things you need to do to set your heart on fire and light you up. It is selfish to not give someone the opportunity to get to know you better.
It is selfish to NOT offer our gifts for sale to the world so that someone else can enjoy them too.
So this box that I have put myself in is opening for the final time today. I'm allowing myself my freedom.
I'm not going to make any assumptions about what anyone else will think. And I'm going to be ME and ask for the things I need to be happy and free in this world.
It's NOT selfish to ask for what you want in life. But it IS selfish to keep hiding you, in all your individuality, in that goddamned box of yours.
I want to hear from you in the comments. WANT to hear from you. You have an opinion and an experience to share. It's selfish to not share it 😉
Until we meet again my friends,
much love from
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