I’m prompted to reflect if there is more behind it - is there a misaligned value or belief that encourages this mistake to keep happening? What story do you tell yourself about this situation?
Our motivations for behaviour come from the values, beliefs and stories that we hold true about the world. But just because we hold them - does not mean that they are true!
Viewing the world just from our own first person perspective does not give us a very accurate assessment of what is real. It only gives you the limited view of just your knowledge and experience.
Whereas, seeing the world from another perspective gives us distance, more information and enables us to add to the big picture.
Second Person: The other person’s perspective.
Third Person: An outsider’s perspective.
Forth Person: A global perspective.
The big picture view shows us that in order to not make the same mistake again we need to change some of those stories, values and beliefs to enable resourceful behaviour and an outcome that is more in alignment with ‘reality’ - and with what we really want for our life.
I myself have realised that I’ve displayed behaviours that are completely not what I truly want for my life. This realisation has been painful, but also awakened me to see just how the world might see me.
Now I know it is not my responsibility to decide how someone else sees me - but it is my responsibility to communicate in a way that demonstrates what I really want in my life - love, joy, happiness. Not fear...
By not just seeing the world from our own eyes, but by seeing it through all perspectives - it enables in us the ability to connect deeper, to react authentically from a heart centre (not from ego) and therefore to make less mistakes that we might otherwise regret later.
Where in life do you need to see the big picture view?