Love is not a dirty word.
Then why do we never talk about it?
Self-love that is. Dirty, dirty word.
'Self-love', 'self-worth', 'self-esteem'... (ughh) all words that we no longer talk about.... Have we become so over the whole 'self-help' thing that we are just too focused on DOing things... Instead of focusing on the one thing we struggle with most - just BEing in love with ourself....
The world has become so focused on self-confidence and achievement, that we've forgotten that none of that means anything, if we still wake every morning and the first thing we hear is our own 'Inner Demon' berating us for sleeping in past our alarm.
And then the last voice we hear every night is the one in our head telling us that we need to try harder tomorrow, to do better, to not be so stupid...
Sad really. Sad that the one person that we spend the whole of our life with is not our best friend. In fact, more often than not, they are our worst enemy...
But they don't have to be.
Although we've been conditioned to parent ourselves, and make ourselves feel small, and hate on ourself for not being good enough - we actually do have a choice.
Although the habit feels SO STRONG that it cannot be shifted that it is part of us, that it is who we are - it is not.
It is not who you are.
You are not evil. You are not disrespectful. You are not cruel, or mean, or vengeful. To anyone else...
You only do this to yourself.
But it is NOT who you are.
Who you are is the being that relives the habit every day - but you are NOT the habit!
You CAN break the habit. Starting right now. Starting with the next baby step in the right direction to seeing yourself NOT as your worst enemy, but in embracing yourself as your very best friend.
The longest relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself - from the day you were born, to the day you die - so make this relationship the MOST IMPORTANT relationship in your world - do what it takes to make it a good one....
How do you do this?
By having the courage to face your demons. By having the resilience to pick yourself back up after every fall. By having the persistence to keep going. By having the determination to see this through until you have tipped the scale toward self-love as a priority.
This is the most important thing you can do for yourself. It is a matter of life or death. Choosing YOUR life, over the death of your demons.
Become your own best friend. It is the best gift you can give to yourself - and therefore, the best gift you can give to everyone around you.
What can you do today to start becoming your own best friend? or alternatively, how do you treat your current best friend? What would change for you if you began to treat yourself in this same way?