The first step on the journey to self-acceptance is to come to terms with where you are at now.
However, we are conditioned to believe that if we find comfort in the 'now' then we are complacent and not progressing toward something better. In reality it is in fact the opposite.
This can be the hardest thing to do - we are so caught up in our stories that we fight constantly against the now. We hate our job, or the way we look, or the fact that we have no freedom, or that we are still in the same place we were 6, 12, or 18 months ago. Struggling endlessly against where we are now puts all of your energy into a negative state of being, manifesting only negativity and struggle in our lives.
Coming to terms with the now, does not automatically mean you are 'happy' with your current situation. What it means is that you are choosing to no longer accept the pain that you are causing yourself by rejecting your perceived reality.
If you find yourself in this situation, it's time to take a reality check.
Picture it like a movie - you see the victim thrashing, freaking out and screaming in a casket filled with deadly snakes. Near death from fear, pain, and terror, they are pulled from the casket by their rescuer. Once pulled out of the deadly situation, they look back to see what they have left behind...
But they don't see snakes crawling everywhere - instead they see just a bath of spaghetti, nothing to be afraid of. They could have stepped out of the bath at anytime - the horrifying situation was all in their mind...
It is always - absolutely always - a matter of our thought perspective. We are most often dissatisfied with life because we are comparing ourselves, or our job/wealth/freedom/appearance, to the impossible expectations we have of ourselves and life. When you stop, and take a moment to reality check your life, you will realise that where you are right now, is not that bad. It is in fact exactly where you need to be as a starting point to move forward.
When you stop resisting, you can relax, and start creating again.
How does this look in real life? It takes self-awareness, and consciousness. Watch yourself to witness what choices you are making that shape the way you see your world. Slow right down, and reduce the power the automatic emotional responses have in our lives. Take those blinkers off, and see situations for what they really are.
In my next post, I will explain the process I use to stop fighting against things in my life, to bring dreams - and a sense of peace - into the present, right now.
Where in your life do you belief you could take a reality check, and alter your perspective? What snakes are you fighting against that are really just spaghetti? Please comment below to begin to bring awareness into your life now.
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