On Saturday morning, my husband & I found out that a local surfer, a young man of 25 that we had become friendly with over summer, had a terminal brain tumor. He has been suffering through this disease for over 12 months, and now has just 2-3 weeks to live. Devastated to only just know, and invited to a BBQ in his honour, it was an emotional & life changing day. Upset, at how 'unfair' life is that such a beautiful human life was about to be lost, but completely blown apart by the realisation - he must go through every day now wondering if it may be his last.
The things that consumed my world just a day ago, now seem trivial and almost pointless, as I struggle with the very real and delicate nature of life.
It begs me to ask you an age old question: when it comes to your last days on earth, what will suddenly be most important to you?
Will you be thinking about whether you will miss the final of The Voice? Or will you be thinking of how you can spend quality time with the people you love?
Will you be worrying about how much work you still have to do to reach your boss's deadline? Or will you find the time to play your guitar, or dance, or paint, or go surfing, or see another sunset?
Will you be happy you got the million dollar mortgage, or will you be trying to sell it instantly so you can have money to travel to somewhere you have never been to before?
I'm not talking about having regrets for decisions you have made in the past - I want to ask you: Are you living the life that you desire to live, or are you living the life you think the world expects you to live?
We all understand theoretically that life is short, but we get numbed into everyday monotony and it loses its impact - until something wakes us up again to the uncertainty of life. Humans choose the safe, secure lives which society tells us to live. This is not because we want to follow the norm, but because we are afraid of what might happen if we do it differently.
Our first world 'security' is just as susceptible to unexpected change, loss, and death. We are built to deal with uncertainty, but not within the bubble of corporate career, over-medicated health, & picture-book perfect house. Instead, we can embrace uncertainty as the fundamental essence of life, if we embrace life in the NOW.
Life was meant to be lived on the edge - on the edge of this moment.
As I cry for the last days of our friend's life, I am not only terribly sad, but I am so grateful that he is a part of our lives, even if it has been for such a short period of time. We can never change the eventuality of death, but we can choose what we want to take with us - a life spent enjoying the freedom we can create in every single moment with a breath of air, a quiet mind, and the infinite possibilities of what we can create in the now.
What do you want to take with you when it's your time to go? Please join in the discussion by making a comment.